Childhood Summers

Photo by Bill Jobe, Killbear Provincial Park

Summer as a kid for me: it was home-made popsicles made from jugs of Kool-Aid, games of Kick-the-Can with the neighbourhood kids, and bouquets of wildflowers picked from the meadows behind our farmhouse.

It was rolling down a grassy hill like a cast-off log, snapping fresh green and wax beans with mom on the back porch, and running with my dog through fields of long grass.

I remember sleeping on a groundsheet overnight, cuddled up in a warm sleeping bag, lost in the canopy of stars above me.

Oh, that noisy cricket in my bedroom that I could never find.

Fresh-picked corn-on-the-cob drenched in butter was a favourite (still is), as was wading in the creek, toes squishing through gooey, thick, black mud. It was so much fun scooping up tadpoles out of the back swamp and building tree forts with bits of deadfall and scrap lumber.

It was running my bicycle up and down the long gravel laneway leading to our country house. I used to sit for hours gathering the most colourful stones; sparkling quartz, red granite, and  fossilized limestone. I used to put them into old pickle jars full of water to bring out their true colours and beauty and put them on my dresser so I could enjoy them longer.

It was whittling away the end of my wooden stick to a fine sharp point with a penknife so that I could slide my slippery hot dog on to cook over a burning campfire, without splitting the skin and it falling off into the hot coals. There was a knack to that!

When I was ten years old, I remember building a pair of stilts out of extra lumber from the garage and teaching myself how to walk on them. I walked all the way from my house to Tim Horton’s Donut shop, two full blocks away and back, on those homemade wooden stilts.

It was afternoons at the park with my brother and sister, running from swings, to the merry-go-round, to rocking horses, to teeter-totters and back again. I learned to pump my legs back and forth and throw my body weight forward and back to send my swing soaring into the sky to greet the clouds, then falling into a downward arc back to the earth, hair tossing and flowing, smiles and giggles glowing. The teeter-totter was tricky. You had to find the right balance with your partner or you might find yourself stuck at the top, them chortling with glee as they looked up at you from their grounded perch.

It was sandy beaches and shovels and buckets of endless construction. You had to get enough water in the sand so that it would stick well and keep its shape but not too much or it slid out of your bucket in a slippery cascade. It was lapping ripples on your toes or wading waves that knocked you over with their rolling, foaming power. It was swimming underwater and opening your eyes to see sunbeams streaming through the blurred world of water and under you, rippled mini-sandbars formed by the endless swells. Here you weighed nothing and could kick and swim freely; here, gravity was powerless. How long you could hold your breath became a challenge so you could stay in that underwater world as long as possible.

It was camping holidays in the old tent trailer, the fresh damp smell of aged canvas and the sound of falling pine needles leaving their shadowed silhouettes on the roof. It was being first up and opening the trailer door and catching the early glow of twilight before night finally gives up its ghost and the morning sun claims the day. For a moment, that magical moment, the world is silent, holding its breath before it all begins.

It was rubber balls, and skipping ropes, and baseballs and bats. My favourite game involved an Indian rubber ball in an old stocking, and I chanted as I bounced that ball off the outside brick wall of my family home: “Hello, hello, hello, sir. Are you coming out, sir? Yes, sir. No, sir. Why, sir? Because I have a cold, sir. Where’d you catch the cold, sir? At the North Pole, sir. What you doing there, sir? Catching polar bears, sir. How many did you catch, sir? One, sir. Two, sir. Three, sir. Four, sir. Five, sir. Six, sir. Seven, sir. Eight, sir. Nine, sir. Ten, sir. That’s enough for me, sir.”

It was buzzing bees and a hornet’s nest high in the tree. It was sprouting mushrooms in the forest, smelling earthy and moist. It was slices of watermelon, juices dripping down my chin, seeds spitting out of my mouth.

It was chasing butterflies through fields of yellow buttercups and white feathered Queen Anne’s Lace while leaping grasshoppers bounded out of my way.   

It was rainbow colours arcing across the sky after a cooling rain on a hot, steamy summer day. At night, it was the patter of raindrops on my grandparent’s aluminum siding farmhouse roof, lulling me to sleep.

Most of all, it was lying back on warm rocks, the hot sun melting my body into a pool of calm. That’s still my favourite. When the doctor says, “Go to your happy place,” that’s where I go. Those hot flat rocks at Killbear Park.

Oh, what a delight summer was. And still is.

Summer Day Trip #2 – Mennonite Farms & Charm

One of my goals this summer is to take day trips or mini road trips to explore spots in Ontario that are new to me. There is so much to see in our beautiful province. Mennonite country with its spreading farmlands and unique culture in south-western Ontario was our destination today.

Summer Day Trip #2 – Mennonite Farms & Charm – SW Ontario

After packing a light snack and drinks, Harold and I headed out for Conestoga Lake Conservation Area in southwestern Ontario for a few hours of fishing and swimming. It was a beautiful drive through rural farmland and small villages with names such as Dorking, Hollen, and Salem. This is Mennonite and Old Order Amish country and it’s common to see the occasional horse and buggy driving along the side of the road with a family dressed in traditional clothing; the men and boys in long pants and suspenders, plain shirts, and broad-brimmed hats; the women and girls in long-sleeved, high-necked dresses, and head coverings such as bonnets or caps. Most often they were in dark clothes, but sometimes we were surprised to see bold purples and other bright colours or prints or even lacy head dresses.

We drove through farm after farm of fields of waving wheat, grazing horses, and corn reaching for the sun, dotted by the occasional small village with its local stores and churches.  It must have been wash day as many of the spreading farm houses had long strings of clean laundry hanging out to dry on this windy day. Many of them had their own tidy flower and vegetable gardens, some with a small table or booth at the end of the driveway selling fresh blooms, strawberries, or even pop for the thirsty traveler.

Conestoga Lake Conservation Area has camping, fishing and swimming areas. It was easy on this weekday afternoon to find an empty picnic table under a shady tree on the shoreline where we could easily cast our fishing lines into the water. As usual, we didn’t catch any fish but our lures got a good soaking, and we enjoyed ourselves for several hours watching fisher folk, boaters, wind surfers and others enjoying the lake on this overcast day with its cooling wind.

By late afternoon, we packed up and headed out for supper. Our destination was Anna Mae’s Bakery & Restaurant, a very popular eatery in the village of Millbank, known for its wholesome, made-from-scratch Mennonite fare and delicious home-baked pies. We were surprised at the busy parking lot considering it was a Monday evening but we had no trouble in getting a table in their large restaurant with its side rooms.

The menu is simple and varies day-to-day, with a short list of meat options depending on the day of the week. This Monday, the Hot Meal offered was the choice of Broasted Chicken (my choice), Farmer’s Sausage, or Roast Chicken and Dressing (Harold’s choice), with a side option of fries, mashed potatoes, or potato salad, and an offer of carrots, corn, or coleslaw. I ordered the soup-of-the-day, a creamy Potato & Ham, and fresh strawberry pie with a good dollop of fresh whipped cream. The servings are generous. I brought home enough chicken and mashed potatoes with gravy for another meal. Harold’s regular meal cost him $16.99; my Full Meal Deal with soup and dessert cost me $24.95.

After dinner, we bought some goodies from the gift shop. I came home with a large stick of smoked salami, a fresh-baked Dutch Apple Pie and a pretty birthday gift for my granddaughter.

Returning home, we criss-crossed rural routes with mixed farms and small villages until, once again, we were back in our own region and its more urban setting.

What a wonderful day we had! I am enjoying these short day-trips and the surprises they offer. I look forward to the next one. 

Summer Day Trip #1 – Ayr, Ontario

One of my goals this summer is to take day trips or mini road trips to explore spots in Ontario that are new to me. There is so much to see in our beautiful province. On Canada Day, I started on my quest and decided to visit sites in and near Ayr, Ontario.

Summer Day Trip #1

My friends and I took a picnic lunch to Pinehurst Lake Conservation Area and enjoyed the sun and beach for the afternoon. It was a great place to visit as the parking lot and beach area are very close together, important when you’re hauling folding chairs, beachwear, and picnic baskets and bags. The water was a perfect temperature for swimming and there were lots of trees and picnic tables for shade.

We packed up and toured the pretty little village of Ayr looking for a place to have dinner. It’s changed so much since I lived there fifty years ago but the Green Garden Chinese Restaurant was still there after all these years. The decor and ambience are a little to be desired but the food was hot and tasty, the staff were friendly and accommodating, and the price was excellent.

We left there and drove out to the outskirts of town for the Canada Day Fireworks. My brother was chief pyrotechnologist and put on an amazing show for the community. A great way to celebrate Canada Day!

The Value of Education

Back in 2001-2003, I attended York University to gain a Master of Arts with a major in Dance. Last month I received an e-mail requesting an interview with Len Milley, the Director of Development for the newly named Arts, Media, Performance, and Design Faculty. He wanted to interview me to discuss how the AMPD and York University have shaped my life since I graduated.

Yesterday we had a 45-minute Zoom interview. I had some answers jotted down to answer the question I had been given and I outlined my comments for him at the beginning of our interview.

I told him I had initially decided to return to school for my Masters for financial reasons. I was a single mom with three children and I had recently acquired my first home and mortgage and I was seeking the highest possible pay I could get. Attaining my Masters raised me in the school board pay scale to the top level. I still had 12 more years before I retired and it gave me time to raise my pension, as it would be based on the best 5 years of my teaching career.

When I returned to university, it was at a difficult time politically for teachers. Mike Harris, the Ontario Premier at the time, had decided that our Ontario education system was in shambles. Teachers weren’t doing their jobs in educating our youth. They were over-payed with poor results. Even though it is the Ministry of Education that decides what and how students learn, the full blame for poor literacy rates was dumped on the teachers and we were being ripped apart in the media. I was afraid to tell people I was a teacher because I would usually have to listen to a tirade of how badly we were doing our jobs. As a student at York University, education was honoured again. My opinions mattered. I was made to feel important and valued. My contributions led to deeper insights and conclusions. We were a thriving, learning community.

I told Len Milley about my new publishing achievements. I had published two books, co-authored another and contributed to three published anthologies. I now confidently claim myself as a writer and author.

I also returned to dance as a passion after my graduation at York. Once again dance became an outlet for creativity and delight as I realized that, even though my body was aging, and I couldn’t take part in formal ballet or contemporary classes, there were many other genres I could enjoy. After graduation I signed up for four international dance retreats over the years; one in Hawaii, and three in Costa Rica and learned about Nia Dance and Conscious Dance. Dancing was a joy again.

Len listened with interest as I finished my monologue, and I thought perhaps we were done. And then the interview took a surprising twist.

He brought up my book 10 – A Story of Love, Life, and Loss, a memoir/cancer journey/love story about Tom’s and my life together. His first question was “How could you sit and write that book after losing someone you loved so much?”

I answered him with, “Have you ever seen the movie Something’s Gotta’ Give with Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton? There’s a scene in that movie where Keaton, a playwright, decides to write a play about her breakup with Nicholson in a fictional plot. She took her heartbreak out in her writing, sitting at the computer, wailing and sobbing, elephant tears drowning her keyboard and pages. But she kept writing. A comedy, no less. It was cathartic.”

Len shook his head. “You took your grief out in writing and I took a year of therapy to get over mine.” And then he began to tell me about the losses and fears in his life. He had lost his mother, his father, and his brother, all in a short period of time.

We talked about facing death. We talked about living our lives with zest and what that really meant. We talked about not sweating the small stuff and our realization that it was all small. I told him about my angst after eight years after Tom’s death. I read the poem to him that spilled out of me spontaneously at a writing-to-heal workshop I had attended. It revealed a level of anger and grief that I didn’t even know I still harboured at that point of my recovery with my loss.

As our time came to a close, he finished with a few obligatory words about funding for the University and possible donations, which probably was the real reason for his call. He encouraged me to stay involved with the University with upcoming events and let me know he would put my name on a regular newsletter. We both acknowledged how special our conversation had been and he asked if we could talk again in September. I agreed.

How wonderful life can be when we open ourselves up with empathy, honesty, and authenticity. We all walk around with hurts and joys that we don’t normally share with most people. I felt honoured that he could open up with me the way he did, and that he was so accepting and interested in my thoughts and feelings about important life issues. I feel like I’ve made a new friend.

Char’d – A Smoked Meat Delight

It was a beautiful spring day and what better way to celebrate than to visit Char’d, a smoked meat shack serving some of the best BBQ and smoked meat sandwiches in the Kitchener/Waterloo area. The small drop-in facility is located on Victoria St. in Breslau, Ontario and has a small patio with an outdoor picnic area which we took advantage of on this sunny day.

What a fantastic meal! The two classically trained chefs know and appreciate good food and they have chosen to find their niche with smoked meat sandwiches, serving quality and unique food at a reasonable price. It was difficult to choose between smoked beef brisket or pork loin but I got a taste of both by opting for their feature of the day which was a Maple Bacon Grilled Cheese, with Smoked Brisket, Pork Loin, and four cheeses, served on Cobs Bread. The highlight of it all was the Wild Leek Aioli spread liberally on both slices of the bread, adding an extra hint of mild freshness and spark. To show you how dedicated these food-loving guys are, they hand-picked the wild leeks in a nearby forest and created this delicious spread in their own kitchen.

They served it with a side of rich and creamy Tomato Bisque. So delicious! I also added a side of yummy Yuca Fries served with their tasty coleslaw and dipping sauce. This place is special. They are open Tuesday to Saturday, 11 a.m. until 3 p.m. Go early. They may sell out for the day and you don’t want to miss this incredible food experience.
 

Costa Rica Part 2 – First Times

After a very busy lead-up where there were times when it looked like we just weren’t going to make it, all 12 of us, grandma, three daughters, their partners, and five grandkids ages 2-12 years, did manage to get away to Coco, Costa Rica for 8 days of sun and fun between March 31 – April 7, 2025.

This trip turned out to be very special for our family. It was exciting, full of adventure, great food, good times, and the wonderful experience of getting to know each other more intimately.

There were many “first times” for all of us. Especially the five grandchildren.

It was the first time in Costa Rica for most of the family. Only Dave (Brittany’s boyfriend) and I, had ever been there and never in this area. It was the first time to swim in the Pacific Ocean and watch the sun set over the rolling waves each night. It was our first time to experience a small active rip-tide. We were very careful!

It was the first time to ride a catamaran, snorkel in the ocean, see high-leaping manta rays fly out of the sea, and watch frisky dolphins play beside our boat. The kids and adults had fun jumping off the high deck of the ship into the ocean for their first time.

It was the children’s first time to see an iguana (more than one) and pick fresh mangoes and coconuts off a tree. The first time to see a small gecko and hear it’s funny chirps every night. First time to see toucans, jaguars, sloths, and crocodiles, and to hear and see wild howler monkeys just after dawn each morning. First time to play with saucy white-faced capuchin monkeys who leap right up to the glass at the conservatory and try to touch our faces and hands. They made us laugh! For the first time, we were surrounded by 100 or more beautiful iridescent blue butterflies. Some of them landed on our fingers and ankles.

It was the first time to hike down jungle paths, walk carefully over a suspension bridge hung in a deep gully, and leap off a cliff into the water at the base of a tall 100-metre waterfall. First time to ride on the back of an ox, eat Costa Rican casado, and hear live traditional Costa Rican musicians.

It was our first time to sit in thermal pools in the jungle, heated by underground streams leading from active volcanoes, and our first time to cover ourselves in warm, soothing mud which left our skin smooth and soft. First time to lie in a river of purity, letting the streams of rushing waters cleanse and refresh our bodies.

First time to ride a golf cart, right downtown, and do your shopping for unique souvenirs.  First time to eat delicious Costa Rican food. First time to drink a kid’s version Pina Colada. Yum! First time to eat fresh tropical fruit for breakfast every day; mangoes, papaya, guava, cantaloupe, star fruit, passion fruit, watermelon, pineapples and coconuts, bought at the local fruit stands or picked off the trees in our complex.

First time to celebrate a birthday in Costa Rica. Happy 8th birthday, Wolf! First time to lose a tooth, have Uncle Bill find it, and have the Tooth Fairy visit in Costa Rica. We spent hours in our private pool inventing first-time games of torpedo, whirlpool, I can lift Grandma on my shoulders, challenging races, How long can I hold my breath, and learning how to swim.

And best of all, for the first time, all 12 of us spent 8 wonderful days together from morning to night. We had so much fun! I want to do it again!

After our trip – Liam’s first drawing of a Toucan that he drew in response to his Gr. 7 teacher saying, “Draw me a picture of an animal you saw in Costa Rica.”

Costa Rica Part 1 – We Thought We Were Leaving

After a very busy lead-up where there were times when it looked like we just weren’t going to make it, all 12 of us, grandma, three daughters, their partners, and five grandkids ages 2-12 years, did manage to get away to Coco, Costa Rica for 8 days of sun and fun between March 31 – April 7, 2025.

We Thought We Were Leaving

This trip was to be so special. With Maegan and her family’s busy hockey schedule, and everyone working full-time at demanding jobs, it was difficult to find a period of one week that we all could get away together. All 12 of us. I decided we would go to Costa Rica and Lara and I planned the trip in the month before our chosen date.

It started out rough. It almost looked like it wasn’t going to happen. Passports were still coming in the last few days before we left for some members of the family. Wolf got very ill and was diagnosed with croup just the week before we left. Then one of his teeth chipped and there was an emergency visit to the dentist. He was informed all was okay because it was a baby tooth, very loose, and was about to fall out. To make it even more exciting, the worst ice storm since 1998 hit Saturday night, two days before we left, leaving the Fearmans cowering in their main bedroom as the world froze and crashed around them. The next morning, their yard and neighbourhood looked like a war zone. Maegan and Andrew’s area in Orillia declared a state of emergency and closed roads and highways. Trees and limbs were down everywhere and there was no hydro for many days. Andrew brewed over the idea of staying home one day to clean up the disaster. Grandma Fearman stepped in and oversaw the care of their home so they could catch the Monday flight.

The roads opened up Sunday night and we all made it to the Delta Inn near Toronto airport as we had an early morning flight Monday morning for a 9:30 a.m. departure.

In the boarding area, we were informed that our flight would be delayed by two hours due to bad weather over Florida. One and a half hours later, we were informed it had cleared and we were allowed to board the plane. With some confusion and manipulation of children and bags, we managed to get seated and buckled in.

The plane taxied into position and stopped. “Here we go!” Wilder exclaimed with anticipation. The engines revved, began their low whine, and built to a powerful roar. The plane began to accelerate down the runway and built to top speed, ready for lift-off, when suddenly BAM! the pilot locked the brakes and held the plane on the ground as we all were thrown forward. He fought to control the plane and keep it level. Quickly, too quickly, it came to a dead stop.

WHAT JUST HAPPENED?

With no explanation, we sat in nervous silence as the plane taxied back to the loading area. It was there, the pilot informed us that there had been a technical problem with one of the sensors, and we were now going to sit, refuel, and wait for engineers to come and do a mechanical check before he was going to consider trying another take-off. He had no idea how long that was going to take. We all sat patiently. Luckily, members of the family had brought food and snacks for eating on the plane as all the airline had for us was pretzels and cookies. They had warned us in the boarding area.

The technicians came, tested the plane at the dock by revving the engines once again to see the engine’s reaction, and gave us the go-ahead. They couldn’t find any problem at all. Once again, we refueled. (Who knew that planes hold a precise amount of fuel for a trip and any extra time apart from a strict flight path, burns precious fuel.) The pilot informed us, once again, that if there was a problem on take-off, we would be turning around, ending the flight, and disembarking.

We all crossed our fingers and held our breath, as the plane repeated its take-off taxi and engine rev, building to top speed once again. Once again, we were racing down the runway. With a noisy woosh, the wheels left the tarmac, the landing gear tucked into the belly of the plane, and we were airborne. The passengers burst into applause!

The rest of the flight was bumpy but uneventful. There was enough turbulence that the flight attendants wouldn’t serve hot drinks and, at times, no snacks or drinks at all, as we all stayed locked into our safety belts.

Five hours later, we arrived at Liberia Airport. Luckily, our shuttle driver was there, and took us to our villa complex after almost an hour’s drive through busy downtown Liberia. It was dark. Sunset happens early, by 6 p.m. in Costa Rica, as it sits so close to the equator. We were five hours late from our regularly scheduled arrival time of 1 p.m.

As our driver pulled up to a large steel gate, topped with barbed wire, we wondered what we were going into. Our host was there to unlock the bolted gate and welcomed us in to the courtyard and front parking area.

WE HAD ARRIVED!

As we stepped off the shuttle van, our mouths dropped open in disbelief. We were in the midst of the Garden of Eden, with palm trees, tropical mango and coconut trees, flowers, and two outdoor pools. The clay-tiled roofs of the quaint villas welcomed us. We had rented two homes in the small complex, one a 10-bed house, and the other a smaller 5-bed house. The families with children took the big house; Brittany, Dave, and I took the smaller house.

The rest of the night, we unpacked, got settled in, found a burger joint for some take-out supper, and enjoyed the pool in the hot, humid climate. The week leading up to our arrival was full of problems and troubling issues, but we were finally in Coco, Costa Rica, and we were ready to enjoy ourselves and each other.

Canada, Our Home

Photo Credit – Feminist News

With all the unbounded patriotism that is growing across our beautiful country, I decided to rework part of a piece I wrote about Canada and what it means to be Canadian.

Canada, Our Home

My home is maple trees running thick with sap in the spring.
It is flowers bravely peeping up through melting snow in bright slashes of colour.
In the summer, I float in a cool, clear lake and watch schools of fresh-water fish swim deep through underwater canyons.
Here, I stand in awe of a red, orange and gold vista that stretches across a countryside in autumn glory.
Snowflakes fall gently on my hair and eyelashes, frozen icicles sparkle in the cool sun, blankets of purity coat a white world of winter wonder.
Limestone escarpments, rushing waterfalls and towering pines compete with soaring skyscrapers and ribbons of highway that stretch from coast to coast.
This is a big country, resplendent with natural wonders and a hard-working people comfortable in their own skins. People of many colours and cultures and backgrounds. An accepting people who recognize strength in diversity, beauty in variety, and abundance in uniqueness.

This is where I belong. The cool waters run through my veins, granite and limestone form the bedrock of my soul. The spirit of my people wraps me in circles of trust and belonging. We stand tall and proud and free.

Canada. Our home.

Snow Day

It’s a Snow Day! Last night we had the biggest dump of snow that we’ve had all winter. Schools are closed for the day, and even my local YMCA and Seniors’ Centre shut down for the morning, hopefully opening by 12 noon.

How appropriate that I met a new author this week at my physio’ group class who has written and illustrated a children’s book called “Snow Day.” His name is Werner Zimmerman, and he has written a number of children’s books. Beautiful children’s books. I told him I wanted to buy them for my grandchildren.

We exchanged our books at our last meeting; he got a copy of my book “For the Love of Food: Family Edition” and I, who got the better deal by far, walked away with four of his story books: “Snow Day”, and a colourful and humorous collection of Christmas books on a Canadian theme.  

Check him out at https://wernerzimmerman.ca.

A Bad Day

“Was it a bad day?

  Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?”

~Unknown

We all have bad days. My new year has not started out well. I was sick as I stepped into the first week of January, then I took my car in for a winter tire exchange only to find I needed a full brake job that cost me $1800+. My right knee, which has bothered me for years, is the worst it’s ever been, and I have started physiotherapy twice a week to try and resolve that and avoid surgery if I can.

I can look at the flip side of all these problems. Being sick stopped me in my tracks of a life that I notoriously fill to the brim with activity. I was quiet, read books, watched movies, wrote friendly e-mails, and had ample amounts of time to think about my life and my future.

We know that cars cost money. They are not an investment that keeps growing. I can rest assured that my brakes and emergency brake are now set for many years of use with no problems.

Although my physiotherapy is not easy, I have found an exercise program that works! This is my third time investing in the GLA:D program for those with identified osteoarthritis in knees or hips over several years. I attend bi-weekly and look forward to getting stronger with each session. And if it doesn’t, then I will look at surgery. I am thankful that I haven’t had to do that yet.

So, when people ask how are you, I don’t focus on my lousy beginning to my year. I say, I’m feeling great now, thank you. My car got fixed and I got extra visits in with my daughter and family as they helped me out by lending me their car over five days. Bonus! I have started my physiotherapy and I am confident that I will get stronger as the weeks pass. How lucky I am that I have access to such a program with my benefit package.

Yes, the year started out badly but it also had many benefits. I could dwell on the negatives and make myself miserable and probably all those around me as I complain constantly. Or, I could say, yay, I got through that and I move forward with expectations of good things happening. I choose what I focus on. I choose to find the positives out of negative situations and live my life with hope and gratitude. We all can do that. Choose to be happy.